Jul 28, 2021
Last week, I talked about the
first two of the four essentials for mastering boundaries: “Who’s
Got the Power?” and “Stinkin’ Thinkin’.” (If these don’t sound
familiar, I recommend going back to
listen to Episode
142.) This week, I’ll
cover the third and fourth essentials: “Live and Let Live,” and
“Change (So That I Can Feel Better).”
But before we begin, I want to
share a big announcement: this will be the final episode of the
Beyond Bitchy podcast. This has been a productive and fulfilling
season of my life, but it’s time to bring it to a close and let the
next season begin. If you want to keep up with what I’m doing next,
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being part of this podcast journey!
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #143:
- Others have a right to live the way they want,
just as you have a right to live your life in the way you want. If
you don’t like someone else’s choices, your power is in how you
choose to respond.
- The fourth essential probably addresses most of
the problems you have with boundaries. If you want someone to
change to make you feel better, you’re in one of the biggest
pitfalls of creating effective boundaries.
- When you find yourself wanting someone to
change, go back to essential #1: “Who’s Got the Power?” In short,
you can take action around protecting yourself, or make a request
of the other person.
- The biggest challenge you will probably face is
the practice of returning to you, staying with your reality, and
knowing what you want.
Highlights from Episode #143:
- Welcome to episode #143! Vicki
quickly recaps the first two essentials for mastering boundaries,
which she discussed in detail in
- The third of Vicki’s four
essentials is “Live and Let Live.” She talks about this in more
depth, explaining what is (and isn’t) under your control.
- Vicki shares an example of
“Live and Let Live.” [08:17]
- How somebody dresses is another
example of the third essential point. [11:27]
- The fourth essential
encompasses most problems you likely have with boundaries.
- Vicki digs into what the
problem is with believing that someone should change to make you
feel better. [15:40]
- What should you do when you
find yourself wanting someone to change? Vicki answers, then recaps
the four essentials that she has covered. [17:58]
- Vicki gives an example to
illustrate the difference between what you could record and what
you made up. [20:14]
- Vicki makes a big
announcement about the podcast: this will be the final episode.
- Are you wondering what to do
about your future boundaries challenges? Vicki promises that the
answer is somewhere in the previous episodes of the podcast. She
then invites you to sit down with a 5-Step Boundary Solution Clarifier, do the quiet
inner work to discover your reality, your vision, where your power
lies, and what action to take. [29:11]
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