Jul 25, 2018
Do you have too much anger? Or not enough? If either of these
are true for you, this episode will illuminate the many ways anger
can be a gift. I’ll also explore the consequences of not expressing
anger appropriately, and teach you how to own your anger so
that you can make it an ally.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #20:
- Most of us don’t have a good relationship with anger. We
usually experience anger at the extremes, or we're afraid of it.
When you have a healthy relationship with anger, it becomes a gift
and an ally.
- We often think of emotions as good or bad based on how they
make us—or others—feel. But emotions aren’t inherently good or bad.
Anger is an emotion, and is therefore simply an experience, or
- When it comes to not expressing anger appropriately, there are
two options: too much, or not enough. Rage is an example of too
much anger, or an unhealthy expression of anger. On the other end
of the continuum, someone may fake a smile, pretend not to be
angry, or refuse to express their true feeling at all.
- Anger offers several valuable gifts. It can give you a signal
that something isn’t working in your life or in a particular
relationship. It can also indicate that a limit or boundary has
been crossed. Or, your anger may be telling you that you need to do
Highlights from Episode #20:
- Vicki introduces this episode’s topic: how to make anger your
- We hear some examples of why someone might have a conflicted or
challenging relationship with anger. [04:02]
- Vicki explains the value of getting a reality check from others
about their anger. [10:24]
- The metaphor of blood circulating throughout the physical body
is a useful one for thinking about how emotions need to circulate
in our minds/psyches. [14:08]
- Vicki explores the gifts of anger. [15:31]
- Often, anger is a sign that we need to set a boundary, and
Vicki gives some examples. [18:51]
- We hear about the consequences of not expressing anger.
- Vicki shares insights into how to manage and own your anger.
- Sometimes, you may realize that you just want to release your
anger instead of trying to make a request or do something about the
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