Sep 5, 2018
As with every first episode of the month, this one is dedicated
to the topic of women and boundaries. I was inspired by a recent
incident in my own life that made me even more aware that there are
stark differences between the way women and men perceive safety or
danger, and their relative needs for safety.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #26:
- Boundaries are about protection and creating safety for
ourselves and others. If women and men have a different perception
about safety in general, their different perceptions can cause
upset, challenges, or intense conflict around navigating situations
where safety is an issue.
- When you’re highly activated or triggered in some way, your
brain goes offline and you stop thinking in a rational way.
Instead, you’re more likely to make things up in your own mind, and
react to what you've made up.
- Safety is a fundamental need that we all have. If our needs for
safety are not met, we will struggle to be relational, or sometimes
- In general, women have a much different perception around
safety and boundaries than men do, and the statistics (which you’ll
hear in this episode, or can read at this link)
Highlights from Episode #26:
- Vicki explains what boundaries and safety have to do with each
other, and how this relates to the differences between women's and
men's relative need for safety. [02:01]
- We hear about the event that Vicki experienced recently that
inspired this episode. [05:54]
- Vicki sums up the relevant points of her story. [12:50]
- Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is a helpful tool in understanding
dynamics around safety and getting needs for safety met.
- Vicki explores three specific boundaries and how they show up
for women. [17:48]
- We hear some statistics from the National
Domestic Violence Hotline’s website. [26:54]
- What do you do about these differences, how can women take care
of themselves, and how can we navigate the challenges that may
- Vicki recaps the points that she has covered in today’s
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