Oct 2, 2019
Its that time again the first episode of the month, the one that
is dedicated to women and boundaries. Are you friends with someone
who is draining you? Do they make you tired because they won’t stop
talking? Vicki is going to give us some simple strategies to
distance yourself to stop the madness.
Vicki shares with us the consequences of allowing over-sharers
too much of our time, the things you can miss out on and the relief
you will feel once you disengage from them. She says when we take
care of ourselves and allow pure joy into our lives, we will
attract people who want the same thing, thus eliminating the people
who exhaust us.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #66:
- Not everyone feels the same way about draining people. It is a
matter of perception.
- Delay your response to a text or, if you don’t want to maintain
a relationship with them, become less responsive over time.
- Say ‘I hear you’ when someone starts to overshare.
- Exhaustion, time loss and missing out on relationships are the
consequences of allowing someone to drain you or overshare with
- Do things that bring pure joy to you! Don’t waste time with
things or people who don’t.
Highlights from Episode #66:
- Welcome back to the show! Today’s episode is dedicated to women
and boundaries. [00:41]
- Vicki reads what a listener wrote in about wanting to set
limits on her friends to keep the relationship equal instead of
- She discusses people that over-share and are draining and how
we as women attract them. [02:47]
- What does it mean to be draining or an over-sharer? It is open
to perception. [05:45]
- Vicki speaks about signs that someone might be exhausting to
- We can feel shame if someone shares too much personal
information with us. [09:02]
- You have the right to set limits on the time the draining
person gets. [09:47]
- Decrease the amount of contact you have with a draining person
if you don’t want to maintain a relationship with them.
- She gives us some simple strategies to limit your available
time to listen to someone who is draining or want to over-share.
- Say ‘I hear you’ to people who want to over-share. [15:55]
- Have you ever gone out with someone who talked non-stop? Were
you drained? [17:41]
- Once you disengage from someone the payoff the brief discomfort
you feel in the moment can turn into relief. [19:21]
- Have you ever felt overwhelmed by an over-sharer? [21:44]
- Vicki gives us the consequences of allowing someone to drain
you or overshare with you. [24:49]
- Do things that give you pure joy. If you take care of yourself,
you’re tolerances diminish for people who drain you. [27:11]
- If you want to learn the 5 steps for identifying, creating, and
maintaining healthy personal and relationship boundaries, see the
link below. [29:38]
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