Nov 27, 2019
Here in the US, we’re officially
in the holiday season! But do you feel like the abundance of
opportunities to spend time with people are actually stressful
obligations? You may find yourself in a reactive (rather than
responsive) mode, or feeling triggered or baited. I’d like to give
you eight phrases that you can pull out to help you get through
this potentially challenging season.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #74:
- During the holiday season, it’s easy to end up
reacting rather than responding. These eight phrases will help you
survive the holidays while maintaining your peace and your
connection with others.
first of the eight phrases (and my favorite!) is simply, “I hear
you.” It may feel stiff at first, but it will feel natural as you
practice. This works particularly when others talk about their
powerful strategy when someone says something directly hurtful to
you is simply to say “ouch.” Don’t expand on it or make
accusations; just say “ouch” and leave it at that.
are the other options: smile and nod your head, or say one of the
following: “You could be right,” “that’s interesting,” “I’ll have
to think about that,” “I’m so curious about what brought you to
that conclusion,” or “tell me more about that.” Tune into to learn
when and how to use each!
Highlights from Episode #74:
- Welcome to the episode! Vicki
mentions some of the struggles of the holiday season, and explains
that she’ll provide eight phrases to help you through.
- Vicki goes into more depth
about feeling baited, and how to handle it. [02:24]
- We hear the first of the eight
phrases for getting through the holidays, which is Vicki’s go-to
- The next option is to just
smile and nod your head. The third is the multipurpose statement
“you could be right.” Next up are “that’s interesting” and “I’ll
have to think about that.” [07:47]
- Vicki shares the sixth and
seventh phrases that you can use throughout the holidays.
- Last but not least is the word
“ouch.” Vicki gives an example of how to use this tool.
- Vicki recaps the eight phrases
that she has covered in this episode, and shares another phrase
that might work depending on the region. [17:31]
- We hear about the role of
self-care in a peaceful holiday season, and learn an important
question to ask yourself when you’re tempted to react instead of
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