Nov 25, 2020
Happy Thanksgiving! This episode
is coming out just in time to help you navigate the complexities of
holidays in the time of COVID-19 (although the points about safety
are always relevant). As we explore this new complex landscape,
let's take some time to talk about boundaries, agreements, and the
freedom to choose.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #114:
you hear words like “let” or “made” (in the sense of “making”
someone do something), they often indicate that the person using
them doesn’t fully understand how boundaries work.
you make a request and someone else freely agrees, no one is being
“made” to do anything. And the act of making a request isn’t
controlling, because it recognizes the freedom that the other
person has to make their own decisions.
- During the pandemic, we’re faced with many
dilemmas as we navigate what to do based on what the people around
us are doing (or not doing).
- Remember that you get to decide what’s best for
you, and for the people in your care. Other people also get to
decide what’s best for them, including requiring that you get
tested before you come to their house.
Highlights from Episode #114:
- Welcome back to the show!
Today’s episode was inspired by a listener’s question about how
to apply boundaries around different perceptions of safety
regarding COVID-19. [00:39]
- Vicki responds to the listener,
complimenting her boundary work and pointing out that parents are
responsible for their children’s safety. [04:25]
- We hear about where the
listener’s question becomes a little bit confusing—and why her
opportunity to negotiate boundaries will go on for years or
- Vicki explores one of the most
challenging parts of boundaries during COVID-19, and returns to
addressing questions of freedom and control. [17:03]
- You are the decider for what is
best for you and the people in your care. [22:38]
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