Jul 7, 2021
People have a lot of
misconceptions about boundaries. You may hear people say that
boundaries are harsh, rigid, a punishment, or even selfish. Some
people even believe that sharing boundaries is a way to control
others or tell them what to do. Recently, I’ve heard another
misconception: setting a boundary with someone is a sign that you
disapprove of them. Tune in to learn why this isn’t the case, and
how your boundaries are all about you.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #141:
- Whether you disapprove of someone isn’t the
focus or the issue when you set a boundary. To focus on approval or
disapproval is a deflection away from your limits.
- If someone’s first reaction to your choice to
set a boundary is to accuse you of disapproving of them, they are
simply expressing their opinion, and the may be acting without
- Your limits are about you and you alone.
Boundaries are a form of self-care. They’re about taking care of
yourself, not disapproving of someone else.
Highlights from Episode #141:
- Welcome to the episode! Vicki
chats about the reasons she started this podcast.
- We hear about some common
misconceptions about boundaries. [02:15]
- Vicki adds a new misconception
to the list: if you set a boundary with another person, it means
that you don’t approve of them. [05:57]
- Does setting a boundary mean
that you disapprove of someone or their behavior?
- Vicki talks about boundaries as
a form of self-care, and explains with an example.
- If you set a limit and someone
calls you rigid, harsh, or disapproving, they’re changing the
subject from you to them. [14:52]
- Remember that your boundaries
are about you and your self-care! [17:06]
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