Jul 11, 2018
Today’s title may sound cryptic and odd, but by the time you’ve
listened to this episode, I promise you will totally get it! I'll
cover what is called the "internal boundary" using a recent event
from my own life that will help clarify exactly what the internal
boundary is and how it works.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #18:
- The internal boundary is the boundary that all of us have—or
should have. When you experience an event or situation, you filter
that experience through your perception and judgments. You then
decide what you think and how you feel, and decide want to do about
what you’ve experienced—if anything. This is how the internal
- When your internal boundary is solid, you respond rather than
- When you’re trying to decide what to do about an issue, take a
moment to think about how important it is to you. Rate it on a
scale of 1-10, and use that to help you decide.
- If you rate something as a 7 or higher, you probably need to
respond in some way, rather than letting it go.
Highlights from Episode #18:
- Vicki introduces the topic (and the title) of today’s episode.
- To illuminate the internal boundary and how it works, Vicki
offers a simple example of what happened to her—internally—when she
made the mundane realization that the spatula she wanted to use was
in the dishwasher. [04:54]
- Vicki discusses Step 1 of the 5-Step Boundary
Solution process, then returns to talking about
the spatula incident. [13:28]
- When you experience something that you don't like (especially
when it has to do with another person), most of us have a default
toward either talking to the other person about it or letting it
go. Take a moment and ask yourself what your default is.
- Vicki talks about the expression, “would you rather be right,
or would you rather be happy?” [20:01]
- Vicki discussed the three options of what to do shen something
another person does doesn’t work for you. [24:24]
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