Jun 24, 2020
From time to time, everyone
struggles with biting the bait. And usually the people we feel most
baited by are the people we care about the most. But there’s really
no benefit to biting the bait, especially if we want to stay
connected. Today, I’ll dig into what exactly bait is, and share 11
ways to avoid biting it.
Biggest Takeaways From Episode #95:
dictionary definition of bait causes us to focus on the wrong thing
in interpersonal reactions: the other person’s intent. Instead,
think of bait as your internal experience to what another person
says or does (or doesn’t say or do).
eight phrases that I shared in my episode on
how to keep the peace during the
holidays all work when
you’re feeling baited. A fantastic all-purpose response is to
simply say, “I hear you.”
helpful response when you’re feeling baited is to repeat the other
person’s statement or question. Another option is to amplify what
the other person said if it was negative.
- Finally, humor can be one of the most effective
strategies for dealing with bait.
Highlights from Episode #95:
- Vicki welcomes listeners to
today’s episode, which is all about how not to bite the bait. [00:39]
- We hear about Vicki’s
upcoming special live event for podcast
listeners. There, she’ll
answer previous questions from listeners. [03:24]
- What is bait? Vicki explains
why the dictionary definition is problematic in this context.
- Vicki digs into the benefits of
focusing on being baited as your own experience instead of someone
else’s intention. [10:32]
- We hear about the first few of
11 potential responses to use when you feel baited.
- Vicki shares the rest of the
potential responses, including a standalone “ouch.”
- Vicki adds three more tools,
specifically for when you’re feeling baited. [23:51]
- We hear a quick recap of the 11
ways that you can respond when you’re feeling baited.
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